Foreplay Secrets: Three Steps to Giving Your Woman a Spine Cracking Orgasm, Guaranteed
Foreplay for most men and women is sometimes seen as a necessary evil or even as a "special treat" for his lady. But the truth is it's a fundamental part of lovemaking for most women.
Why?
There are two main reasons why foreplay is so important for women:
- It takes us longer to get going. A woman is like a train... it takes her some time to get the momentum up... but once she's going, she's hard to stop.
- Women in the main take a more emotional view of sex than men do. In other words, they want the emotional connection more than just the bumping and grinding (but that's not to say we don't like the B&G, too. We do. It's just that we like to be romanced, seduced and warmed up, first).
So now we know what you've got to do and why you've got to do it... the question is how do you go about it?
Well, here are three simple tips to help you along your way to helping her get up that head of steam.
1. Help her relax
Most women are constantly stressed out these days, juggling home life, kids, and often work and their own careers, too. Yes, I know, I'm sure you help around the house... but how much? So give her a day off. Make a note in your diary to give her a break for at least one full day, say this weekend. Chances are she's going to be relaxed, appreciative and have much more energy for you.
The crucial thing is though DO NOT make this "about sex". If you make it seem like she's got to "put out" as some kind of reward for your hard work, then not only will you pour cold water on the heat of her desire, but you're also missing the whole point. Sex is something you do together when you both want to, not something one gives to the other as a reward. Using sex as a currency in any relationship for any reason is always a Really Bad Idea.
2. Pamper her
In the evening after you've washed up or at least stacked the dishes (you DID cook for her, didn't you?) offer her a massage -- warm oils, candles, perhaps a little wine and chocolate beforehand... the works.
Women love massage and your paying attention to their bodies.
Now, here's the trick: don't give her a quick rub on the shoulders and then dive straight in with your hands on her breasts or your fingers between her legs. Remember: romance! Take your time to appreciate her whole body completely. Spend time massaging those erogenous zones - elbows, backs of knees and legs, thighs, back of the neck, etc., and all the while compliment her on how beautiful and desirable she is, and how sexy you find her. And be teasing... if she starts to respond when your s on her inner thigh, say, rather than going for the kill, move your hand away. Make her work for it... make her really want you. It's counterintuitive, but the more you hold back... the more she's going to want you.
3. Don't make love until she's had at least one orgasm
That's the rule, and no matter how difficult you find it or how tempted you are to satisfy your own desires, you must not enter her until she's orgasmed at least once, however you decide to make that happen -- with your hands, your tongue or even a sex toy.
In fact, while this is going to be really hard, I can almost guarantee something she will really love is if you make her cum you stop right there, even though you haven't cum yourself. You do need to be sensitive to her feelings here, too. She might feel a bit put out if you turn her down, especially if you've never done it this way before. Or she might just want a good old-fashioned romp with you because you've got her clawing at the ceiling.
But my point is many women feel the need to reciprocate and sometimes, just sometimes, it's nice to just enjoy the feeling of having our bodies being worshipped by the man we love and adore.
Try it -- I guarantee it'll open your eyes!
Gloss